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NYC Dating Coach advice - abstract notes from her videos Flirt

• needed:
  • positive attitude/self confidence, posture
  • conversation topics in mind/news
  • courage/confidence
• wink/smile/eye contact
• get eye contact, glance away, glance back
• bright smile in eyes and lips
• hi/hello, ask open ended question, opinion?
• ask NAME, remember, use their name!!
• pay compliments, talk about them, listen more
• talk about them, keep conversation light
• eye contact, show interest
• light conversation, bantering
• aroma, perfume
• feel yourself, touching
• humor - jokes, laugh, smiles
• mirroring behavior
• lean in when listening to them
• light touch on hand
• hug goodbye

First date obvious advice

• have a date outfit planned out in advance
• conversation: catch up on current events, news and conversational topics to discuss
  • pick up previous conversation history - backup any funny stories/jokes up sleeve
• presentation: look best, confidence, exercise, eat/sleep well, bathe well and smell good
• attitude: have positive attitude and don’t panic: call friend, watch movies/music/entertainment
• be early or on time

sense of humor cavalier attitude / confidence/optimism

More Tips - practicalhappiness.com videos - youtube

• Go out and meet: gym, bookstore, cafe
  • Approach many new faces, practice being charming, Smile!
• Hello! (offer name) - if she volunteers hers, remember and use
  • Have high energy, be fun, social, interact, gossip current events, exaggeration
• don’t say “go out/date”, simply propose “we should do XYZ, iwb fun!”
• Talk politics/religion, but disagree responsibly w/class
  • Watch Griffin & Phoenix - http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0460812/
• Man should ask for phone number & make first call, ask for it
  • do not give out your business card, it’s too tacky (not business)
• Go to house parties to meet people/women, easy going/relaxed
  • more likely to get to talk to them and interact
• conversation starter (instead of bad pickup line), quirky Qs, opening line, tell joke
  • 1) relevant 2) unique 3) compel a conversational response
• approaching women? 1) take action 2) move on if no interest/keep confidence
• don’t tell a girl you like her early! It takes women much longer to develop
  • 1/2/3rd date, don’t pressure/corner her to decide how she thinks about you
  • better for her to make up her mind on her own terms
  • how to let her know you like her? call/make time/go out/be available/show interest
  • be attractive/funny/confident/stand closer/initiate contact-touch/eye contact/sensual
• Eye contact - hold gaze, don’t stare, DONT look away if interested in her!
  • shows lack of confidence to go after what you want, smile/wave, don’t just stare
  • open conversation, have guts, approach her
• Impress? by not trying to impress. have confidence and self assurance. worth something
  • you are an interesting and valuable person just as you are
  • don’t try to hard! it’s a turnoff
• dating relationships: boring, needy/desperate, controling
  • don’t be that guy
• silence can be your great friend on a date!? use to your advantage
  • how do you act/carry yourself? look into her eyes w/ silence. enjoy music.
  • don’t talk during foreplay! lol
• don’t be boring!!! (can be rude/bad smell/agressive - can be forgiven)
  • not interesting company. keep it interesting.
  • 1) use humor!!! fun/playful of her/self, switch to seriousness at times
  • 2) don’t agree with everything. disagree sometimes.
• why still single. don’t bash exes. bad experiences may mean you are bad?
  • well what’s wrong with being single? I enjoy it.
• Dinner to action
  • 1) give off romance/charm/etc
  • 2) conversation. listen w/ interest, active listening, laugh/nod/mirror/encourage
  • 3) no extravagant compliments. don’t comment on looks. funny/unusual jokes on looks.
  • 4) move in for touching, accidental touching, footsie, share food, desert
• How to apologize to women: with pride, like you mean it, you did wrong. not begging.
  • hey, I just realized... ask for a way to make it up to them.
• Dress and Style - subtlty, don’t try too hard/go over the top
  • only some women do that. careful with jewelry, cologne, clothes - use knowledge/personality/talking/humor
• Dress for Success 1) must feel comfortable 2) clothes must fit properly/not sloppy/not too tight, 3) don’t be too flamboyant
• Complimented by woman? play off of it with humor/personality
• Be perfect
  • 1) listen to her (shopping/makeup/feelings), stay interested, most important
  • I was just thinking about hwo much I love you, tell me again in more detail, great story
  • 2) love her friends/family, remember their names, details, make them your friends too
  • have somone on the inside, fury of womans friends have an inside link
  • 3) be a man. perfect: facilitate her ability to achieve, gentleman, call her, help her
  • 4) bedroom - play her like piano, good music of her choice
  • 5) suprise her! spend money on her, travel, take her out, give her opp to reward you
  • 6) be hygenic, respectful, well groomed
  • 7) be faithful, never mess around
• Need money to date great women? don’t need iphone/clothes/car/etc. “things” to give her
  • first date should not cost more than $5-10, coffee, drinks, etc. not dinner.
  • save your money. who you are, character, ambition, goals, sense of humor is important
  • become a more interesting person and you will attract more women, regardless of salary
• Common obstacle: Assumptions and Communication
  • primary cause of unnecessary fights/arguments.

Irresistible to Women

• needed:
  • female friends
  • generosity
  • loyalty
  • wit
• pay her lots of compliments
• learn to tell a joke
• give undivided attention
• pick up the check
• buy a house, 5x more attractive
• fondness for children, good dad
• workout to be fitter than avg
• be faithful